One thing that I have learned about myself is that I am a People pleaser. I always want to help others and make others happy, which isn’t a bad thing, but I can get carried away and forget to help myself and focus on my own happiness. I had to learn to say no to others and yes to myself, which is still a work in progress but has become a lot easier than when I started to learn how to say the word “no.” I can recognize where it’s important to say no and take myself out of a situation. This doesn’t mean when your boss asks you to do a task and think, hmmm. No, don’t want to do that, no no, that’s still your responsibility that you are paid to do unless you feel your life or health is at risk. What this does mean is if your friends are asking for help with a move or needing a service they require for free for example, it’s ok to say no if your not wanting to do so because, in the long run, it’s draining your mental health or energy, its ok to say no, its ok to put yourself first. NEVER forget that.
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